{"id":18300,"date":"2022-05-13T12:21:28","date_gmt":"2022-05-13T02:21:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.mbsfestival.com.au\/?p=18300"},"modified":"2022-05-13T12:21:28","modified_gmt":"2022-05-13T02:21:28","slug":"how-to-mother-in-the-21st-century","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/mbsfestival.com.au\/sydney\/blog\/how-to-mother-in-the-21st-century","title":{"rendered":"How to Mother in the 21st Century"},"content":{"rendered":"

Mothering in today\u2019s world is hard right? I have 2 daughters, one 25 and one 15 \u2026 so I\u2019ve had the chance to compare just how different mothering is even in this small gap of ten years. Now we talk about anxiety, BPD, narcissism, body dysmorphia \u2013 many terms I hadn\u2019t even heard of 10 years ago, let alone be discussing on a regular basis with my girl.<\/p>\n

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The current culture surrounding our girls and young women can be terrifying for a mother. Feeling like a David facing Goliath, we can be left feeling powerless, inept and like we\u2019ve failed our daughters, many times in the same day.<\/p>\n

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Wanting to feel confident and assured, while sometimes drowning in self-doubt, you might find yourself constantly seeking new solutions, trying new things, researching the internet, buying the books \u2026 but still, returning again and again to those same feelings of powerlessness. Perhaps feeling further away from your daughter than ever.<\/p>\n

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I feel your pain. Speaking from the trenches, and from working with the emotional worlds of women for the past 15 years, I\u2019ve discovered there\u2019s an option not \u2018delivered\u2019 through our culture, that has the potential to change everything for the better. When I learn how to activate this state, I\u2019m able to feel an expanding sense of inner knowing, confidence and strength \u2026 which is really what I need to support myself and my daughter through these unprecedented times.<\/p>\n

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What\u2019s the catch I hear you thinking! Yes. There\u2019s one. We\u2019re required to \u2018do\u2019 life differently, turn it right side up (because it was wrong side up before, which is why many of us are left feeling so powerless). This can bring about some inner resistance and requires practice. Even though it\u2019s our natural way, it\u2019s not normal.<\/p>\n

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The option? To step out of the repetitive cycles and into the emerging process of life. When I see what\u2019s happening as part of an emerging process (an opportunity to grow) I can let go of the outcome (sorry if I\u2019ve made your heart start palpitating ). Rather than having to fix my daughter or make things right, I validate my own feelings of fear, insecurity, not good enough which creates a coherent state between us. This helps her to emotionally regulate and I feel empowered \u2013 we are naturally attuned, not fighting what is, which has us both feeling more deeply connected than ever. From that platform we progress \u2013 the outcomes are so much better because we are launching our actions from a centred state.<\/p>\n

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This \u2018state\u2019 of mothering, does many things quite magically. It<\/p>\n